Posts Tagged: rambling


10
Dec 10

What now?

I never thought I’d be writing this sort of post, which also makes me a hypocrite because I kind of hate them. Most of what draws me to a blog is the voice and experiences of the author. Not the latest news, super awesome “stuff”, giveaways, amazing photography… you get my point. All that stuff helps but in the end, the truly unique and often most interesting part of a blog is the person writing it.

For me, successful, long-term blogging means that the first priority is to post for myself, not an audience. Not that I don’t appreciate you all for reading – because I do. It is both amazing and amusing that people want to read what I have to say but I have learned the hard way that once I start to write for something other than my personal amusement, I start to lose interest.

Not that I am!

The point is – my thoughts are all over the place. There are drafts stacked up in the queue, ideas floating around in my head and things happening every day. Eventually, I will get to it all (or not) but I don’t mind putting a priority on things people are interested in reading. Everybody wins, you know?

Is there anything you want to see? Let me know!


22
Nov 10

Baaaaa

Baaa

You know what? I miss being easygoing. This “ALL STRESS, ALL THE TIME!” is really wearing me out! Just another sheep before finals…

Regularly scheduled posts will return soon! The 30 for 30 catch up, the halfway recap and a couple of other things I haven’t had a chance to finish with the craziness the past few days. The weather and my schedule haven’t been too accommodating for taking outfit pictures! But I’m still managing.

This random, bad post is courtesy of the NaBloPoMo thing I’m participating in – a post per day, for 30 days. Now I’m off to put the finishing touches on my project before I fall asleep on the keyboard…


3
Nov 10

Drivers License

Most people seem to hate their drivers license – usually because of a terrible picture. The reason I dislike mine? The weight. And not for the reason you’d think!

Not that anybody probably notices the small, red print when they card me for alcohol… or cough syrup. Yes, cough syrup. Maybe they do notice but women hiding and lying about their weight is so ingrained in our culture that maybe these generous souls are allowing me to keep my illusions?* My license, which I got almost 10 years ago, claims that I am 220 pounds. Which was accurate then, not so much now.

License

It is amusing to be ~100 lbs heavier and have it say 220. I’ve had to ask myself why. It is just a number. Why does it even matter? I am always the person to say, “Who cares what people think?” but in this case I do. I guess it comes down to the fact that people make assumptions and I think many would conclude that I’m ashamed of my weight, my body. But I’m not! It is the opposite!

It isn’t even that I necessarily care what others think but it just doesn’t feel “right” to me, as silly as it sounds. It just bugs me. I am 320 pounds, not 220! In most contexts I don’t give a shit about my weight – why this one?

I’ve been considering braving the wilds of DMV just to change that one thing on my license. It sounds ridiculous, right? Am I crazy? When my drivers license renewal showed up at my parent’s house I thought, “Yay! Now I can change it with no hassle!” And I’ve also decided to finally (after 2 years!) to update my address. Well, the great state of California allows online drivers license renewal, but you can’t change your address. I can mail it in and pay by check but can’t change anything other than my donor status. Then I realized my old checks have my old address. Checks that I bought at 17, they gave me 5 books of what, maybe 50 checks? After ~8 years I’m still on the first book. Like I need a new box of checks that I won’t use?

Looks like I will have to make that trip to DMV sooner than anticipated. Or pay online through their antiquated website.

Speaking of government websites… Why are 99% of them are visually offensive, slow and difficult to use? It completely defeats the purpose. Shouldn’t they be accessible? Maybe if we invested in making things more user friendly, etc. people might USE THEM. Ugh. Looking at you State of California!

My hair appointment was delayed until tomorrow. The tread from my tire decided to take flight in the middle of the highway on my way out there this morning… But I got my new tires that people told me weren’t necessary two weeks ago. TAKE THAT! I’m glad it happened now instead in the middle of winter. That would have been a tad more dangerous.

*Sarcasm and stuff.


23
Sep 10

Fat and fashionable?

Being fat and fashionable aren’t mutually exclusive. Yet there are very few companies taking advantage of this. I’m fat. I like fashion. I want fashionable, quality clothing. Is that too much to ask for? Is my money any different?

I typically wear a 26/28/30 US. I’m not versed at all in high fashion. I never saw the point of investing time in a community that did not include or value my participation, let alone my body. It has definitely been refreshing to see larger than usual bodies modeling clothing and on runways – but is it just a fad or is the fashion industry finally taking baby steps to a more body positive message?

There has been a lot of talk about designers doing plus size clothing. Any dissent I’ve read on social media or blogs against the “THIS IS THE BEST THING EVER!” has been blasted with this mantra of, “Be thankful they’re doing SOMETHING.” Or another favorite, “They have to start somewhere!” While I’m one to believe more in positive reinforcement, I find it very hard to be excited about stuff that has already been done.

Marc Jacobs has tried to release “plus sizes” before. Robert Duffy (the guy who tweets) said that they end up getting the stock back because nobody buys it. He posed the question – if they do it again, will people buy it this time around? So is it our fault, as the plus size community, that their attempts to cater to “plus sizes” failed? What is “plus size” to them? A 14/16? Were those clothes made for fat bodies? For boobs, hips and bellies? Were they sized up from the size two? Often you find that when designers decide to pick and choose which pieces will be plus sized – these aren’t necessarily the cute/trendy/fabulous pieces that they are known for.

It is difficult for everybody to find cute, fashionable clothing. Bodies are different. Period. With mass-market clothing, you don’t always get kind of fit you want. Size 2 or size 28.

The reality of plus size fashion is that as the size increases, your options drastically decline. Over a size 24/26, it can be a fashion wasteland. Every year, things seem to get a little better or easier but it can still be tough. There are a handful of companies offering sizing up to a US 28/30, and UK stores like Evans stop at 30/32 UK. Problem is, some of these companies trick you. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen something cute at Avenue, in store or online, and oh, wait! It stops at a 26, even though they carry up to a 30/32. I was actually very pleased to notice that Torrid has started carrying 5s or a 30/32. And the amount increases every season. Unfortunately, a lot of their fitted dresses still stop a 26. But it is nice to see some of the trend items in size 5. What about Lane Bryant and their bra sizes. Half of the styles stop a 44 band size. Others at a 46. What?! I was recently shopping for new bras and was told by an associate that I should settle for the bra I was trying on – it was “good enough” because hey, it went around me and held my boobs. Good enough, right? Despite the fact that there were some very noticeable issues that screamed, “this doesn’t fit!” Don’t even get me started on trying to find the 30/32s they supposedly offer.

With stores outside of the US, from the UK to Australia – sizing is different. UK sizing is supposed to be 2 sizes smaller than US. So Evans line goes up to a 30/32, which is a 26/28. New Look at a 26 UK, Next at a 26 UK. Yours Clothing, City Chic, etc. ASOS with their Curve line has become extremely popular with some amazing on trend, structured pieces which have been relatively non-existent in the plus size shopping world, but they also stop at a UK 26 or a US 22.

Under a size 20, you can get away with finding certain straight sized pieces. Or even a lot of retailers have started carrying straight sizes up to 20/XXL. Hell, even I can fit into Old Navy XXL’s occasionally!

Guess I’m naive but I feel like carrying up to a 26/28-30/32 should already be standard for most plus size ranges but it definitely isn’t. I feel like it is a little backward to clap some designers on the back for deciding to offer “plus sizes”, when in truth it is more average sized.

My question is what about people who wear ABOVE the extended sizes offered by chains. I’ve been there, done that. Before a medical condition was discovered in 2008, I wore a 38/40w. The only place I could find clothing was from the Redcats catalogs. Just in the last 4-5 years, the selection has improved a lot but even the catalogs claim they have sizes 12-44w. The “extended” sizing is often in very limited styles. Basic tops, jeans, pants, knits, oh and don’t forget the polyester muumuus! There are always exceptions to the rule, and I’ve seen more “trend” items be offered in larger sizes but it can still be extremely difficult. In the past 10 years, I’ve been sizes 18/20 to a 38/40w and ended up in the middle.

I encourage people to stop saying that something is “good enough”, when it really isn’t. There are so many plus size companies – either large chains or small businesses that offer larger sizing already. Even better to go to Etsy sellers who are willing to make clothing to YOUR size. Which can seem expensive but in the end – a well-made piece of clothing, that is tailored to YOUR body is going to fit and probably last a lot longer than an off-the-rack polyester monstrosity.

Urge these companies to do more to earn your patronage! Provide feedback, ask questions!