Posts Tagged: fat


29
Aug 11

Fight for your right!

To paaaaaaaaaaaaarty. Okay, not quite.

Hi, I’m Nicole. And if you read this blog regularly, you might have noticed that according to standards set forth by our society, that I am “morbidly obese”. And you know what? Despite this, regardless of what size we are, we all deserve to find and wear clothing that we like and enjoy. If that clothing is not available? We have the right to demand it.

As a consumer, we have two ways to let us be heard. Feedback and purchasing power. Even before I started this blog, I let companies know what I wanted. More often than not my feedback was met with the following excuses:

“We tried that, nobody bought it.”
“Production costs.”
And my favorite?
“Sorry, we’re not interested in doing that at this time.”

Since I was a child, I’ve always been at the top of what is the “currently available size range”. I’m sure part of this is because finding larger was also impossible to find and there were times when I probably wore things that were too small because that is what was available. Right now, I’m a 26/28, sometimes 30. And yes, there has always been a cap of what size is publicly available.

Ten years ago, there was nothing more in my surrounding area than Lane Bryant and Avenue that went to size 26/28. Outside of those stores, you couldn’t find anything above an 18/20. When I wore an 18, Old Navy brought XXL/20 into stores, department store brands started carrying 1X, etc. and it has increased over time. These days you can walk into Sears, Target and JC Penny to find plus lines going up to a size 24/26. Things have changed.

Sending feedback to companies to extend sizing, provide more accurate size charts, bigger models, better quality, more fashionable clothing, and more, is all helpful. The world is slowly changing. More companies, even high fashion, are starting to notice that plus size fashion is something… popular, wanted or even – necessary.

At one point, I figured it wasn’t worth it to send feedback. Would they listen to me? Probably not. But there are strength in numbers. I’d like to think that all of the e-mails I’ve sent to plus size retailers will some day benefit myself and others. I make conscious decisions about which companies I do and do not purchase from. Sure, I’m only one person but as a group, we are more powerful.

I try to be optimistic about the state of the plus size clothing industry. Providing positive feedback when things are done right, when companies start taking steps forward, but time and time again you see the same thing. Plus lines that stop short – at a 18/20/22/24. The same types of clothing. Trends popping up seasons behind. Shapeless clothing. When is enough, enough?

With the “ZOMG OBESITY EPEDEMIC” and the fat acceptance movement, I see these companies on tender footing. They are trying to please multiple groups – those that love their bodies, those who do not and are concerned about their company “image”. These companies make tentative steps forward – releasing capsule collections, extending sizing a little bit. Done right, these ventures are successful. Hello, ASOS Curve, anyone? But ASOS is one of those companies who has said, “We are not interested in extending our size range.”

Since ASOS Curve released I’ve sent an e-mail every couple of months, letting them know that if they extended their sizing, I’d be there to buy. Towards the end of the first season, I purchased a few pieces – some that fit and others were too small and it made me realize something. Regardless of how cute/amazing their (or another company) clothing is, I refuse to squeeze myself into clothing made by a company that does not want to cater to my size.

And while I’ve successfully resisted buying or even trying their clothing for over a year… I recently caved in and bought skirts and a dress with a couple of bags that I bought for school – which is why you’ve seen an influx of ASOS Curve stuff on my blog. ;) Nobody is perfect!

Part of me thinks that these companies are neglecting the upper part of this market intentionally. Because making clothing, fashionable clothing for the fatties is promoting obesity in the minds of some.

There is an unfortunate trend lately of companies cutting back their larger sizes, if they offer them at all. The above reasons and more have been offered as reasons why. Sadly, I think there is a little more to it. Because of the language used, I have a sinking feeling these companies don’t want to provide the fashionable clothing we yearn for because it is socially unacceptable to be publicly fat and proud. Catering to these larger sizes makes these companies look like they are “promoting” obesity. Sure, I might be (okay, am) a bitter fat girl, so my opinion is obviously biased.

I find “promoting obesity” a hilarious subject because I hardly think that fashionable clothing available to plus sizes is enough to make anyone want to be fat. Particularly when we live in a world where it is just fine, or even socially acceptable to villainize fat bodies. Where it is the norm to criticize yourself and your body, regardless of size.

There is a super awesome post over on Kath’s blog – A Fat Heffalump, on similar issues in the plus size clothing industry, with an added call to action! She inspired me to dig up this post (almost a year old, yikes!) and finish it. If you’re interested in helping change the status of the plus industry – go participate in her new Facebook group, Super Sizes!

Do you provide feedback to companies? Do you make conscious decisions about where you make your purchases? What are your feelings on the status of the plus size clothing industry?


17
May 11

OOTD: Fat meet up!

Things have been a little crazier than usual around here. With school, life drama and doctor visits – my plate has been pretty full. Luckily the semester is winding down and everything else is falling into place. Just in time – I need a break!

Blogging has definitely taken the backseat but I’ve just found that while I was capable of taking pictures on a regular basis (lots of outfit sets!), I just couldn’t find the words to talk about… anything. As things settle down, I can think more clearly and they are coming back. Whew!

Over the weekend, I took a break from studying and headed over to San Bruno for the fat meet up at Sarah’s cafe. As usual, I had a blast!

If you’re located in the Bay Area (or just visiting)… join us for the Second Saturdays Fat Meet Up! The next one is June 11th.

OOTD: Fat meet up!

Tank top – Avenue
Shirt – Roamans via Fatshion SF swap
Skirt – Thrifted and altered
Tights – Woman Within
Boots – Dolce Vita for Target (available in size 11/12 here)
Belt – Torrid

This rust colored top is what I picked up from the Fatshion SF swap. I love the color but the sleeves feel really weird on my arms. I usually love poofy sleeves or structured shoulders… but this just felt awkward. I am still unsure if I will keep it or pass it on. At the very least, I’ll have to try and wear it a few more times. What do you think?

OOTD: Fat meet up! OOTD: Fat meet up!

OOTD: Fat meet up!
OOTD: Fat meet up!

The light on the Peninsula is always so amazing. Every time I take pictures over there, I nerd out about the light and how pretty it is. Ha!

Less than a week to go until the semester is over. I already have a list of things to do that is a mile long – spring cleaning, painting, trying some new recipes, gardening, sewing and various crafty projects. I can’t wait! Well, I’d skip the cleaning part in a heartbeat but it is necessary…

P.S. Another Super Fats podcast is on the way!


8
May 11

International No Diet Day 2011

Hello! Long time no post. Right? Things have been crazy for me lately – life, schedule, school… Just a couple more weeks until I’m free from this stressful semester and let the fun begin!

Friday was International No Diet Day and I had the chance to participate in an event organized by Marilyn Wann (with a bunch of other rad fatties and allies) to interrupt an obesity conference in San Francisco.

International No Diet Day 2011

International No Diet Day 2011International No Diet Day 2011

I haven’t participated in anything like this before and can’t even begin to describe the feeling. I knew what was on the agenda for the day but actually doing it was a completely different experience. It was both scary and exciting! Naturally, I wanted to record things through photos and if you’re interested, I have the complete set of pictures over here.

In honor of the day, Marilyn composed a song for us to sing and dance to:

Chins. Bellies. Hips…and ass. Hips…and ass.
Chins. Bellies. Hips…and ass. Hips…and ass.
Chins. Bellies. Hips…and ass. Hips…and ass.
We love our bodies the weigh we are. Wouldn’t change a thing!

International No Diet Day 2011

And we did! She blew a whistle to draw attention, started the music and we strutted our stuff down the aisle to the front of the room. Some people were shocked, others smiled. The speaker stuttered and tried to continue his speech. It was interesting to see that at a so-called “obesity” conference that fat bodies were not well represented.

International No Diet Day 2011

Good thing we showed up. Hopefully our demonstration made an impact!

You can read Marilyn’s detailed account of the day on Facebook here.

OOTD: International No Diet Day

Cardigan – Liz Claiborne
Top – Onestopplus
Skirt – Taillissime
Flats – Evans
Belt – Torrid
Necklace – definatalie.com

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The outfit I wore is something typical for me – high waisted skirt, top and cardigan for a cool day in San Francisco. I planned to wear it sans cardigan but I am so glad I brought it! Turns out a mesh sleeves don’t keep you very warm. This top is actually really cute – it has a sweetheart-ish neckline and the neck/sleeves are mesh. You can’t really tell in the photos because I’m pretty much the same color as the shirt. Ha!

I even ironed my skirt for the occasion… but after an hour ride on BART – you can’t really tell.

OOTD: International No Diet Day

International No Diet Day

Marilyn and I

International No Diet Day 2011

Margarita, Sarah and I

A big thank you to Sarah for taking my outfit pictures and tolerating my instructions. <3 I took a couple clips of video and someone was filming the whole thing – I’ll post the link to that as soon as it is available.

How did you celebrate International No Diet Day?


20
Jan 11

Doctor who?

My mother always worked to provide our family with insurance. After turning 18, it was important to her that we either went to school and remained on her insurance, or got a job to get our own.

I can’t say that I’ve ever particularly dreaded seeing a doctor or have any anxiety over visiting. It was more like a necessary evil, sometimes an inconvenience. How stupid is that? Not that I had anything important to do outside of classes or a part-time job. There were so many times that I put off seeing the doctor because I thought I’d get better on my own. Why? For a $25 dollar co-pay I could get a solution to my misery but instead I was frequently stubborn and miserable for several weeks before making an appointment. Same thing with the dentist.

Insurance is a security blanket and without it, the world is a scary place! Not to mention expensive! Like spending $300 dollars to visit the county hospital to be told to go home and rest, with no prescription, after being sick for two months or paying almost $1000 to have emergency dental work done. Don’t forget the yearly pair of glasses that I need to see!

If you’re fortunate enough to have insurance, use it! I’ve learned this the hard way.

Imagine my excitement when my insurance was renewed this year. I’ve been waiting for my new card and called this morning to make an appointment with my PCP until the receptionist uttered these words:

“Oh, she is still on a leave of absence but you can see another doctor.”

I quickly debated. Do I want to see another doctor? Not really. My doctor is fabulous. She knows the complexities of the events of the past few years and has more importantly – always listened to me, my wishes and helped me consider the available options, without judgment. So I asked when she would be back and why she was gone but apparently it is unknown (not that I would probably be told anyway) and she might be coming back in March.

March!? Precious insurance, I’ve missed you. I’m really tempted to wait but I can’t. I’ve had an invasive surgery, lost an ovary, months of recovery and they never really knew why. Then my insurance was up and that was it. No doctor to visit when I was sick. Having to infuse myself with vitamin C at the hint of a cold. No answers to my questions.

Now I have to see a different doctor – an unknown, new to the practice. I got lucky once – blindly switching to a doctor who turned out to actually listen to me and didn’t write off everything because I was fat. Maybe I will again. Then again, I’m not exactly an optimist – so I plan to go prepared. There are a list of things I want done: specialists I was supposed to see, tests that need to be done and questions I want answered.

Here’s hoping!