Events


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Jul 12

FFFW: The beginning

My trip to New York City and Full Figured Fashion week was fantastic. The Big Apple, fabulous fatty friends and lots of fashion. What’s not to love? I’m going to do a series of posts about the trip… because there is too much for just one!

I can’t believe that it has been over two weeks since I’ve been home. The day after I got back, we had a friend from New Zealand arrive to stay with us for a week AND my accelerated, online semester started. After that, my body decided enough was enough – I’d had my fun and now it was time to get sick! Perfect timing, right?

FFFW Packing

Two bags, six days, day/night events = lots of outfits.

FFFW - Closet after packing

Closet aftermath, post packing. To be honest, I’m still trying to organize it… cough, cough.

The Monday before I left, I was procrastinating to the extreme. I had an idea of what I was bringing, clothes laid out on the bed, etc. but nothing was really packed IN THE BAG. My flight was paid for, the hotel was booked and I had saved plenty of money for shopping but in the weeks leading up to the event… it just didn’t feel real.

Normally when I travel, I obsessively plan my outfits to be efficient and “maximize my packing space”. My methods for FFFW were a mess. I threw a couple haphazard outfits together, put in some new pieces (dangerous) and added a few extras, just in case.

Also, I found out a reason to own a scale – being able to weigh your bag. Yes, not for me… for my bag!

After I threw everything in the bag, it was around 2am… and we had been talking about getting up at 4am. Ouch. I just barely made my flight that boarded at 6:31am. A huge, huge THANK YOU to the woman who let me on the plane. The very last person, at the very last minute. If she had a bad morning… I think my trip would have started off differently.

I arrived in NYC around 11am, and made my very first “big city” mistake by getting into one of those “sketchy” cabs. A group of girls had employed his friend, so I figured, what the heck. Rookie mistake. Stick with the yellow cabs. Obviously it turned out just fine. I wish I could blame my poor judgement on my lack of sleep…

Plane over NYC Manhattan

Left: View from the plane just before landing at JFK. Right: Exit sign for Manhattan on the drive to the hotel.

But he took me for a surprisingly peaceful drive on that rainy afternoon, through some less busy streets of Manhattan and ultimately to the hotel, where I got to meet Rebecca for the first time! My FFFW roomie and (patient) photographer for the remainder of my time in NYC.

Rebecca and I met in the lobby, hugged (yeah, I’m one of those) and got down to business – getting in the room after a long day of traveling! Since we arrived a night early, we started off in a smaller room that wasn’t part of the event block, and swapped the next day.

I have to admit that I was a little nervous meeting Rebecca (since we were stuck together for a week!) and other bloggers. Meeting people that you know from the internet isn’t always what you think. I try to be as “me” as possible in online spaces, but it just isn’t the same as knowing someone in person. Especially when you have to share a bathroom!

Luckily, everything was great! We talked easily and comfortably, like old friends. One of the reasons why I love Rebecca’s blog is because her way with words always strike me as genuine and honest. Plus, I’d love to raid her closet…

Affinia Room 1

King Kong

King Kong, for $19.95! Kind of creepy…

Taking on the world

I loved their sign, “I’m out taking on the world”.

By time we got in the room, a nap was very tempting, but we chatted for a bit then decided to explore part of the city. And by explore I mean… go shopping.

We walked over to Macy’s on 34th street, a serious shopping mecca. So many floors of retail heaven… and people! There was an entire floor dedicated to plus sizes. I don’t think we even made it through the whole thing before heading to the changing rooms. I brought in 20+ pieces of clothing to try on, but nothing that I loved enough to buy. We both walked out empty-handed. Shocking, I know!

Rebecca had the foresight to bring an umbrella and attempted to share but I embraced the fact that I was going to get wet and went without. We popped in a F21 nearby, but they didn’t have plus sizes. At that point, it was pouring. I was soaked, my dress was hanging and I looked like a drowned something-or-other. On the way back, we passed Old Navy and I walked in, praying they had an umbrella in June.

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Rebecca and I on 7th Avenue!

I found the very last one and bought it. Then we made our way back to the hotel for a well-deserved nap and dinner. I will say that Manhattan has very good Cobb salads.

Stay turned to hear about the rest of my trip! I’ve been trying to dig myself out of this mountain of homework.


10
Feb 12

OOTD: Fatty Affair

As promised, here is my outfit from Fatty Affair! If you missed the event post, you can find it here and you can see the whole set of pictures up on Flickr.

OOTD: Fatty Affair

Dress – ASOS Curve, UK 26
Jacket – Joanna Hope, Simply Be, US 28
Tights – We Love Colors, EE in Scout Green
Belt – Torrid
Boots – Fitzwell, “Syrup” via 6pm.com
Bracelet – F21
Bangles – Torrid

For this event, the “dress code” was on the fancy side. Since I was speaking about fashion, I wanted to pick an outfit that was sparkly, special and something I felt comfortable in. Movement, comfort, warmth (or lack therof) and if possible, something I had worn before, were all concerns.

Being nervous (public speaking!!!) and experimenting with new clothing combinations is a recipe for disaster, in my experience.

This jersey dress from ASOS certainly fit the bill on all counts! I’ve worn it before with my favorite black and white cardigan, but it is one of those OOTD shoots that never made it to the blog (yet). Lately I love the idea of pairing bright pink with teal… so with my color palette set, I picked out a couple of coordinating accessories.

Here are a few more awkward pictures for the road!

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When wearing ASOS Curve clothing, I’m constantly reminded that while they can obviously find suppliers to make clothes that fit my size 28 body (UK 26 is a US 22) but have “no plans to extend their line”. Grr.

Part of my awkward speech was about giving companies feedback. Fight for your right to be able to find the kind of clothing you want, in a size that fits your body – which I’ve wrote about before. You don’t know how many times I’ve been told the two solutions of – lose weight or learn to sew. You don’t have to do either!

More and more companies are listening to the growing demands for plus size, fashion forward clothing, extended sizing, etc. and with my purchasing power, I try to support the ones that are.

It is important to give constructive feedback and give it often. Don’t like what you see? Give feedback. Don’t see what you want? Ask for it.

Check out Kath’s great post – YOU have the power to drive change. She has written a great post on how to engage with these companies and do it effectively – as she’s worked with two companies in Australia already.

We all have the power to instigate the changes we want to see in plus size fashion. Now it is time to speak up!


6
Feb 12

Fatty Affair 2012

My epic write up seems to have disappeared from my drafts. I tell you – this has really been my week! I’ll give you the short summary and pictures instead. Those are worth a thousand words, right? Or so they say…

January 28th, 2012 was the day. Fatty Affair was held at the Billy DeFrank LGBT Center in San Jose, California. It was awesome! Sarah organized a fantastic event full of great speakers, activities (clothing swap!) and vendors. So many people came out to participate and join in the fatty fun – it was amazing!

Here are some of the pictures. You can check out the complete set on Flickr!

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Phat Fly Girls

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Start of the clothing swap!

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Raks Africa

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Marilyn Wann, being awesome

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Milo who let me take her picture – such a mesmerizing dress!

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The lovely organizer, Sarah!

There was so much energy, camaraderie… it is actually difficult to describe! But so powerful. After I was both emotionally drained and eager to do more. I called Chris to tell him how amazing the night was and I’m pretty sure it was me sniffling while rambling random words…

I was honored that Sarah asked me to be a speaker. Which I did awkwardly because plans changed a little bit – I ended up speaking by myself! My mind went completely blank. Next opportunity for public speaking? NOTES. PRACTICE. CLEAR THOUGHTS. Public speaking is not my forte!

It was great meeting so many new people – some readers, other activists and much more. I can’t wait until the next fatty event!

I’m going to post my outfit separately, as this is a little picture heavy already. You can catch a glimpse of it in my “catwalk” picture above.


26
Jan 12

Fatty Affair!

If you’re in the Bay Area, you might have heard about this event. If you haven’t, you’re welcome.

This weekend the fabulous Sarah of NotBlueAtAll is hosting A Fatty Affair in San Jose, California. Here’s the details:

A Fatty Affair – Body Positive Fun and Festivities!
Saturday, January 28, 2011
3:30 PM to 6:30 PM
Billy DeFrank LGBT Center
938 The Alameda, San Jose, CA

Sponsored by Santa Clara University
Women’s and Gender Studies

There will be lots of activities and events – a clothing swap, body positive art and vendors, photo op’s and various speakers like – Marilyn Wann, Sarah, Virgie Tovar and… me. I was honored to be asked to speak about fashion with Virgie. Thanks Sarah! <3

That’s just a quick summary of all that is planned – you have to visit to see and hear it all!

If you attend, please come say hi. Hope to see you there!