February, 2012


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Feb 12

OOTD: Earning stripes

Call me stripe obsessed, because I am. Not sure when it happened but it went from a casual fling into a full blown “thing”!

The first item I reach for when getting dressed? Stripes. What draws my eye when shopping? Stripes. What did I buy when I finally got to a F21+? Stripes. I tweeted this picture on my trip to Los Angeles in January:

Sorry about the awful picture, my cell phone and I don’t get along…

The fact that I’m breaking one of “THE RULES” on a regular basis is just icing on the cake.

OOTD: Earning stripes

This was my outfit for day 3 of Fa(t)shion February!
Cardigan – New Look, UK 26
Tank – Old Navy, XXL
Skirt – Old Navy, XXL, here.
Teggings – Re/Dress
Ring – Evans
Necklace – F21 (p.s. it’s an elephant!)
Flats – Evans

This skirt is apparently sold out online in the larger sizes but if you like it, definitely go find it in the store. It could easily fit up to a size 30. When I saw this skirt, I knew I’d break one of my “personal shopping” rules but damnit, it was worth it.

I get the whole philosophy behind “make it work” and in most cases, I agree. But it depends on the context. Making it work with the tools you have at hand versus… seeking out clothing in smaller sizes to see if you can “make it work” are slightly different to me. And I’ve seen this phrase describing a myriad of fashion-y things and/or concepts.

OOTD: Earning stripes

OOTD: Earning stripes

Now, don’t get me wrong. The size on the tag means nothing. I have thrifted things in my closet that say small. A size “small”, I am not! I think that as purveyors of fashion we need to use all resources available. Any and all resources. If we didn’t, the world would be a sad, sad place.

Do I also need to say that these thoughts apply only to me and my shopping habits? I don’t care (or judge) what other people do. Good? Okay.

OOTD: Earning stripes

In my last post, I mentioned that I use my hard earned money to support stores that cater to my body. Stores that make clothing for ME. If I walk into a store that carries up to size large, is it possible that I can “make something work”? Absolutely, even as a size 28 and I’m not talking accessories. The oversized trend is like fashion’s gift to fat girls. Sure, that top was meant to hang off someone’s frame… but hey! If it works, it works.

So what’s my problem?

Economics. When I’m buying straight sized clothes off the rack, it is just a number to the company. Their stuff sells and that’s what they care about. If I’m buying their clothing, even if they don’t care to cater to plus sizes… why should they bother changing that? If I’m buying retail, I avoid buying from companies that don’t offer plus sizes.

But thrifing, eBay, second-hand, etc.? Everything is fair game. I’ve seen things in store that I have not bought and later sought out online (saves money too!) because of this.

OOTD: Earning stripes

OOTD: Earning stripes

Some companies offer limited plus ranges and for me, these are borderline – ASOS Curve, Eloquii, etc. Each time a plus line is launched and it stops at 24, babies cry. No joke.

For decades, the “industry leaders” have had lines up to size 28 and stopping short of that is just annoying. It makes me highly suspicious that these companies see clothing fat bodies as “promoting obesity” or that fat(ter) people don’t deserve clothing that makes them feel good but that is a rant for another day…

Old Navy makes my borderline list because they don’t carry their plus line in stores (but make up for it slightly with free return shipping). But the sad fact is that they offer a lot more options in straight sizes, and if a similar version makes it to plus – it is probably $20 more and not as cute.

OOTD: Earning stripes

OOTD: Earning stripes

I probably think way too much about this stuff but to me, it is important to consider all angles. I like cute clothes as much as the next person, but after 15+ years of wearing fat girl clothes I am fed up. Where I spend my money, giving constructive feedback and being vocal are some of the tools that I can use.

I took a picture of my tripod because I planned to make this a (funny to me, facetious) post about how much I love my tripod. In reality, I’ve been spoiled by handing off my camera to other people and having them snap pictures for me. Instead… I got distracted by a rant. I’ve realized that I prefer to either be behind OR in front of the camera – not both!

Do you make conscious choices about what or where you buy things? It doesn’t have to be clothes.


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Feb 12

OOTD: Fatty Affair

As promised, here is my outfit from Fatty Affair! If you missed the event post, you can find it here and you can see the whole set of pictures up on Flickr.

OOTD: Fatty Affair

Dress – ASOS Curve, UK 26
Jacket – Joanna Hope, Simply Be, US 28
Tights – We Love Colors, EE in Scout Green
Belt – Torrid
Boots – Fitzwell, “Syrup” via 6pm.com
Bracelet – F21
Bangles – Torrid

For this event, the “dress code” was on the fancy side. Since I was speaking about fashion, I wanted to pick an outfit that was sparkly, special and something I felt comfortable in. Movement, comfort, warmth (or lack therof) and if possible, something I had worn before, were all concerns.

Being nervous (public speaking!!!) and experimenting with new clothing combinations is a recipe for disaster, in my experience.

This jersey dress from ASOS certainly fit the bill on all counts! I’ve worn it before with my favorite black and white cardigan, but it is one of those OOTD shoots that never made it to the blog (yet). Lately I love the idea of pairing bright pink with teal… so with my color palette set, I picked out a couple of coordinating accessories.

Here are a few more awkward pictures for the road!

OOTD: Fatty Affair
OOTD: Fatty Affair
OOTD: Fatty Affair
OOTD: Fatty Affair

When wearing ASOS Curve clothing, I’m constantly reminded that while they can obviously find suppliers to make clothes that fit my size 28 body (UK 26 is a US 22) but have “no plans to extend their line”. Grr.

Part of my awkward speech was about giving companies feedback. Fight for your right to be able to find the kind of clothing you want, in a size that fits your body – which I’ve wrote about before. You don’t know how many times I’ve been told the two solutions of – lose weight or learn to sew. You don’t have to do either!

More and more companies are listening to the growing demands for plus size, fashion forward clothing, extended sizing, etc. and with my purchasing power, I try to support the ones that are.

It is important to give constructive feedback and give it often. Don’t like what you see? Give feedback. Don’t see what you want? Ask for it.

Check out Kath’s great post – YOU have the power to drive change. She has written a great post on how to engage with these companies and do it effectively – as she’s worked with two companies in Australia already.

We all have the power to instigate the changes we want to see in plus size fashion. Now it is time to speak up!


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Feb 12

Fatty Affair 2012

My epic write up seems to have disappeared from my drafts. I tell you – this has really been my week! I’ll give you the short summary and pictures instead. Those are worth a thousand words, right? Or so they say…

January 28th, 2012 was the day. Fatty Affair was held at the Billy DeFrank LGBT Center in San Jose, California. It was awesome! Sarah organized a fantastic event full of great speakers, activities (clothing swap!) and vendors. So many people came out to participate and join in the fatty fun – it was amazing!

Here are some of the pictures. You can check out the complete set on Flickr!

Fatty Affair

Fatty Affair

Fatty Affair

Fatty Affair

Fatty Affair

Fatty Affair

Phat Fly Girls

Fatty Affair

Start of the clothing swap!

Fatty Affair

Raks Africa

Fatty Affair

Fatty Affair

Fatty Affair

Marilyn Wann, being awesome

Fatty Affair

Milo who let me take her picture – such a mesmerizing dress!

Fatty Affair

The lovely organizer, Sarah!

There was so much energy, camaraderie… it is actually difficult to describe! But so powerful. After I was both emotionally drained and eager to do more. I called Chris to tell him how amazing the night was and I’m pretty sure it was me sniffling while rambling random words…

I was honored that Sarah asked me to be a speaker. Which I did awkwardly because plans changed a little bit – I ended up speaking by myself! My mind went completely blank. Next opportunity for public speaking? NOTES. PRACTICE. CLEAR THOUGHTS. Public speaking is not my forte!

It was great meeting so many new people – some readers, other activists and much more. I can’t wait until the next fatty event!

I’m going to post my outfit separately, as this is a little picture heavy already. You can catch a glimpse of it in my “catwalk” picture above.


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Feb 12

Five Take: It’s my party

This week for Five Take, our theme was a party dress. Perfectly timed because Claire, Becky and Gina were busy at Plus London and Rebecca was celebrating her birthday.

What about me? Oh, just at home… working.

At first I thought I could cop-out and post my outfit from Fatty Affair. Between the computer issues and work, I’ve slacked off on writing that post (obviously). And I already posted the images to the Facebook group, thus fulfilling promises made. Ha! But in all seriousness – photos are uploading to Flickr as I… type and the post will follow this one.

Back to the party dress. I decided to not go the easy, cheater route and started to think how the hell I was going to pull a party dress off on Super Bowl Sunday, when the highlights of my day were going to be cleaning the bathroom and work. I wanted to stay in my pajamas!

Five Take: It's my party

Dress/top – Collection by OneStopPlus, 34w
Vest – Apt. 9, Kohl’s, 3x
Jeggings – Old Navy, 28
Shoes – Bass, “Chrissie” via 6pm.com, 11M, $22
Bracelet – Necklace from Claire’s

I started wracking my brain for ideas and a dress to wear… Do I wear a party dress and dress it down? Go full party fance, and go to the grocery store at 3pm looking silly? The first won but pulling it off? Not so simple.

How do you dress down a party dress? Is it possible? I started to panic a little when all I could think of was adding a slouchy cardigan and/or jeggings. Which I guess would succeed in dressing down but not in a fashionable or creative way, which is part of the purpose for this challenge.

Five Take: It's my party

Five Take: It's my party

On my dress rack, I had this sequin number from OneStopPlus. I picked it up for a song and could never think of how to style it. I remember showing Chris and we both decided it looked like a sparkly night shirt. There was no shape whatsoever.

It was one of those things that I should have sent back but the return shipping wasn’t worth it. Today I thought… maybe I’d try it out. Now that’s a challenge!

Five Take: It's my party

Five Take: It's my party

Now, I have no idea why – but I decided to purchase this dress in a 34W. Maybe it was the only size left? Maybe I wanted it over-sized?

The catalog sizing almost always runs big for me, so I hope I wasn’t that dumb. Either way, I tried putting this baby on today… and yeah, so big it was comical. So big that belting it wasn’t going to help. So big that… well, I figured it was going to be a mess. I really meant to take a picture of the disaster but something distracted me – more about that later.

Five Take: It's my party

Remember I wanted to stay in my pajamas? What’s just as good as pajamas? Jeggings. Back during 30for30, I started belting my dresses into long tops and I thought it might work for this dress, despite the obvious size issues. Since my other ideas options involved fancy dresses paired with slouchy, casual cardigans I was desperate to make it work.

And also laughing at myself the whole time and fully prepared to do my grocery shopping and errands looking ridiculous. Now THAT is dedication. I even tweeted this:

A cardigan was out of the question because my favorite part of this mess was the arms. And it would hide lots of my shiny glory. So I grabbed the vest out of my closet (still with tags) and decided to wear that to break things up.

I didn’t end up belting the dress in the same way as 30for30 but used a belt to secure the extra fabric (lots, 10 inches?) below my boobs to make the dress look like a top. The result was a little bulky but not enough that anyone (but me) would notice.

As I got ready to leave, something scary happened – it started to grow on me. It started to look good! Nobody was more surprised than me because this outfit building started with me laughing at my reflection in the mirror each glance.

I threw on these super cute (and comfy) shoes, rolled up my pant legs (a la Rebecca), put my hair in a messy up-do, grabbed the “bracelet”, my purse and walked out the door.

Ridiculous or not.

Five Take: It's my party

Wondering what my distraction was? I left the car door open as I was taking pictures (smart move). This particular spot is on the side of a busy street and as I was taking pictures, I watched in horror as my knitting bag tipped over and stuff spilled out. Two balls of yarn for the sweater I’m about to start rolled into the gutter… one of which kept going into the storm drain.

Yup. That yarn is gone. I also pretty much needed all of the yarn I had, so knitting the sweater is going to be interesting. Good thing I’m making a cropped version! Thus (hopefully) needing less yarn.

Five Take: It's my party

Don’t forget to check out the party dresses of the other Five Take members!

Claire – A Monkey Fatshionista
Rebecca – The Plus Side of Me
Gina – Fat Fit Fine
Becky – The Ramblings of Mrs BeBe

Party dresses are something I wish I could wear more. They are things I rarely, if ever, buy because I have so few opportunities to wear them. But it would be really great to have a few that could do double duty on occasion…

Now a question for you – don’t worry, you can be honest. ;) How’d I do?

What is your favorite party dress? Would you ever attempt to dress it down?