August, 2011


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Aug 11

Fight for your right!

To paaaaaaaaaaaaarty. Okay, not quite.

Hi, I’m Nicole. And if you read this blog regularly, you might have noticed that according to standards set forth by our society, that I am “morbidly obese”. And you know what? Despite this, regardless of what size we are, we all deserve to find and wear clothing that we like and enjoy. If that clothing is not available? We have the right to demand it.

As a consumer, we have two ways to let us be heard. Feedback and purchasing power. Even before I started this blog, I let companies know what I wanted. More often than not my feedback was met with the following excuses:

“We tried that, nobody bought it.”
“Production costs.”
And my favorite?
“Sorry, we’re not interested in doing that at this time.”

Since I was a child, I’ve always been at the top of what is the “currently available size range”. I’m sure part of this is because finding larger was also impossible to find and there were times when I probably wore things that were too small because that is what was available. Right now, I’m a 26/28, sometimes 30. And yes, there has always been a cap of what size is publicly available.

Ten years ago, there was nothing more in my surrounding area than Lane Bryant and Avenue that went to size 26/28. Outside of those stores, you couldn’t find anything above an 18/20. When I wore an 18, Old Navy brought XXL/20 into stores, department store brands started carrying 1X, etc. and it has increased over time. These days you can walk into Sears, Target and JC Penny to find plus lines going up to a size 24/26. Things have changed.

Sending feedback to companies to extend sizing, provide more accurate size charts, bigger models, better quality, more fashionable clothing, and more, is all helpful. The world is slowly changing. More companies, even high fashion, are starting to notice that plus size fashion is something… popular, wanted or even – necessary.

At one point, I figured it wasn’t worth it to send feedback. Would they listen to me? Probably not. But there are strength in numbers. I’d like to think that all of the e-mails I’ve sent to plus size retailers will some day benefit myself and others. I make conscious decisions about which companies I do and do not purchase from. Sure, I’m only one person but as a group, we are more powerful.

I try to be optimistic about the state of the plus size clothing industry. Providing positive feedback when things are done right, when companies start taking steps forward, but time and time again you see the same thing. Plus lines that stop short – at a 18/20/22/24. The same types of clothing. Trends popping up seasons behind. Shapeless clothing. When is enough, enough?

With the “ZOMG OBESITY EPEDEMIC” and the fat acceptance movement, I see these companies on tender footing. They are trying to please multiple groups – those that love their bodies, those who do not and are concerned about their company “image”. These companies make tentative steps forward – releasing capsule collections, extending sizing a little bit. Done right, these ventures are successful. Hello, ASOS Curve, anyone? But ASOS is one of those companies who has said, “We are not interested in extending our size range.”

Since ASOS Curve released I’ve sent an e-mail every couple of months, letting them know that if they extended their sizing, I’d be there to buy. Towards the end of the first season, I purchased a few pieces – some that fit and others were too small and it made me realize something. Regardless of how cute/amazing their (or another company) clothing is, I refuse to squeeze myself into clothing made by a company that does not want to cater to my size.

And while I’ve successfully resisted buying or even trying their clothing for over a year… I recently caved in and bought skirts and a dress with a couple of bags that I bought for school – which is why you’ve seen an influx of ASOS Curve stuff on my blog. ;) Nobody is perfect!

Part of me thinks that these companies are neglecting the upper part of this market intentionally. Because making clothing, fashionable clothing for the fatties is promoting obesity in the minds of some.

There is an unfortunate trend lately of companies cutting back their larger sizes, if they offer them at all. The above reasons and more have been offered as reasons why. Sadly, I think there is a little more to it. Because of the language used, I have a sinking feeling these companies don’t want to provide the fashionable clothing we yearn for because it is socially unacceptable to be publicly fat and proud. Catering to these larger sizes makes these companies look like they are “promoting” obesity. Sure, I might be (okay, am) a bitter fat girl, so my opinion is obviously biased.

I find “promoting obesity” a hilarious subject because I hardly think that fashionable clothing available to plus sizes is enough to make anyone want to be fat. Particularly when we live in a world where it is just fine, or even socially acceptable to villainize fat bodies. Where it is the norm to criticize yourself and your body, regardless of size.

There is a super awesome post over on Kath’s blog – A Fat Heffalump, on similar issues in the plus size clothing industry, with an added call to action! She inspired me to dig up this post (almost a year old, yikes!) and finish it. If you’re interested in helping change the status of the plus industry – go participate in her new Facebook group, Super Sizes!

Do you provide feedback to companies? Do you make conscious decisions about where you make your purchases? What are your feelings on the status of the plus size clothing industry?


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Aug 11

OOTD: The beginning of the end

Last week I finally had the chance to do what millions of people had already done in weeks prior – I went to see the last Harry Potter movie.

Yes, it took me almost a month. I’ve loved the Harry Potter series since it first came out – read the books from beginning to end many, many times and have marathoned my way through the movies too. But as the saying goes, all good things come to an end. They are some of my favorite books from my pre-teen/teenage years and I will continue to re-read them over time… but I do have a fondness for young adult literature.

OOTD: The beginning of the end

Shirt – New Look
Skirt – ASOS Curve
Cardigan – Old Navy
Sandals – Avenue
Bangles – Torrid
Necklace – My grandmother’s

Alexys and I met up in Petaluma to see the movie. Petaluma is one of my favorite cities… mainly because it is the biggest, “fun” city (hellooo, outlet mall!) close to Bodega Bay – one of my absolute favorite places in Northern California. My family loves to go to Bodega Bay to camp out near the ocean. And I’ve spent a lot of time up there over the years when I’m upset or life gets crazy because the area has a calming effect on me. Unfortunately the local sewing shop we planned to visit in Petaluma was closed… but it isn’t like I need more fabric/stuff/things to do anyway.

Anyway, during the movie I may or may not have cried a little bit (the end of an era!) but not enough to have mascara all over my face. No evidence! After we were thorough, she kindly took some fabulous OOTD pictures for me (thanks! <3) and posed a bit too.

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OOTD: The beginning of the end

OOTD: The beginning of the end

Here is yet another ASOS skirt – I know, I know, branch out! I haven’t been doing too much shopping and very, very rarely at ASOS (but I’m saving that rant for later). I took the chance, ordered a few things on clearance with some bags for school and these skirts (and a dress) happened to work out. My problem with “new” stuff is that it is usually out where I can see it, in the front of my closet or I want to wear it immediately. Oh woe is me, right?

Tired of looking at pictures of me yet? Here is Alexys! I’m not sure where her outfit is from – so I guess she’ll have to let us know in the comments… though I do know her super awesome mustard shoes are from Target. I tried to fit my feet in a pair but it just didn’t work out. Target shoes are really hit and miss (okay, mostly miss) for me. Actually, all the cute, won’t-break-the-bank shoes don’t really work for me anymore. My feet just don’t cooperate. Sad times!

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OOTD: The beginning of the end
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Annnnd a laugh for the road! The wind was doing some crazy things with my skirt.

Do you wear new clothing as soon as humanly possible or “spread it out” over time?

Sometimes I try to wait and spread out the new-ness, if that makes sense. Like the act of ripping tags off of something once every couple weeks, regardless of when it was bought, is a mental trick to keep my shopping in check. Ha ha. It works with thrift store clothes too!


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Aug 11

Domino Dollhouse teaser!

Okay, this is just a teaser from Domino Dollhouse’s new Delectable Dresses Collection (to be released soon!) but it is so amazing that I wanted to share it here.

I literally squee’d out loud when I saw this:

Image from dominodollhouse.com

Seriously, how adorable is that? It just is. You can’t argue with that. This isn’t something I think I would wear regularly but I’m seriously, seriously tempted.

Lately I’ve been attracted to more and more… outrageous clothing, I guess you could say? Things that make a statement or call attention. Or sometimes, just absolutely ridiculous because I can. You know like… an ice cream necklace, only that wasn’t intentional.

Earlier this year I bought fabric embroidered with whales to make a party dress, a similarly embroidered whale cardigan (because a fat girl wearing whales? OH MY!) and I guess we might see another addition to my collection of pure awesome in the near future…

The only thing I’m sad about is that the days in summer are limited to wear pretty summer dresses. I guess there is always layering. I can’t wait to see the rest of the pieces from this collection!


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Aug 11

OOTD: Back in the swing of things

With the school semester starting up pretty soon (September 1st!), I thought I’d get back in to the swing of things. You know, posting regularly.

A friend recently told me that I’m a slacker because I’ve only updated three times since I’ve been home. It isn’t like there is a lack of stuff happening. Or that I can’t take pictures. I can, I can – I swear! I haven’t quite been able to pinpoint why it is so “hard” to put stuff up on the blog. It is more just… other things come up. I’ve been busy with work, visiting friends and prepping for the fall semester that starts September 1st. And oh… I’m going to Texas in a few weeks, AGAIN.

Maybe, just maybe, I’ll be better this time? Well, I hope so because I’ll have plenty of homework too. I seem to function better when I have more on my plate. When scheduling is tight, life is crazy… things just have to work or you have to deal with it and move on, so other stuff can get done! Excuses, excuses – I know. And I’m going to eat my words when my brain explodes in a couple of weeks.

OOTD: Back in the swing of things

Either way, today I had to run some errands… like bringing my baby (50mm 1.4 lens) to the post office. It hasn’t been focusing properly so I’m sending it in to Canon. Be safe, my precious! A trip to the post office is never uneventful because it is a great opportunity for people watching. Apparently Monday mornings are an awful time to go because I spent over an hour in line. On my way out, I was approached by a woman who had been ahead of me and she said something along the lines of:

“You’re giving people the wrong idea when you wear that. You are causing problems for the rest of us.”

I was really confused because I was dressed pretty “conservatively”, whatever that means. Okay, okay… minus the bright skirt and yellow bag. My boobs were covered, my skirt was knee length – was she talking to me? I kind of looked around – nobody there. The wrong idea? I guess my confusion was clear because she said, “The necklace.”

I realize you can’t see it that well in this picture, but its the best I have!

OOTD: Back in the swing of things

Top – Evans
Skirt – ASOS Curve
Sequin flats – Evans
The necklace – F21

Guys, I laughed out loud. Truly, laughed out loud. My stomach hurt from laughing because her comment was completely unexpected and not to mention absolutely ridiculous. REALLY? This woman, maybe late 40s, who could be considered “overweight”, was shaming me because I was a fat woman wearing an ice cream necklace. A necklace. And it was important enough to her to wait outside of the post office to tell me this instead of going about her day.

I asked her why she felt that my wearing a necklace with an ice cream charm from Forever 21 mattered to anyone (aside from being super cute). Why she felt that it caused problems for the “rest of us”, by that, I assumed she meant fat people. I informed her that it was not her business, or anyone elses, to comment on how I choose to adorn my body. And that her attempting to shame me because of this necklace is perpetuating the very stereotypes she was referring to.

I think I had my ranty pants on for a few good minutes, enough to stun her into silence. It was a wonderful feeling. I mentioned that she might want to Google “fat acceptance” and walked away. I had other things to do!

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But it still irks me. Why can’t I? The ice cream necklace was nothing more than a necklace. That’s it. It does not imply or say anything about me or anyone because… it is a necklace.

As long as you are comfortable and like how you choose to dress or accessorize, it does not matter what other people think. Really. We are not obligated to please others.

Somebody somewhere is going to take issue with something. It is important to focus on you. What you like, what you enjoy, what makes YOU feel good and the hell with everything (and everyone) else.

OOTD: Back in the swing of things