September, 2010


26
Sep 10

OOTD: First day of school!

This semester I decided to take (got stuck with) a Saturday morning class. Waiting to register often results in tricky scheduling or non-ideal time slots, but so far I’ve made it work. Aside from the fact that I am crawling out of bed at 5am on a Saturday, when other people are sleeping in.

Saturday is technically my Monday. And it is pretty disconcerting.

OOTD: First day of school

Cardigan – Torrid
Cami – Old Navy
Skirt – Thrifted
Bangles – Torrid
Necklace – My grandmother’s

Looking back at these pictures, I’m pretty proud of myself because I didn’t exactly get out of bed when I should have. I’m of the opinion that being up before the sun is just wrong. I even managed to do my hair!

The wonderful thing about commuting early on a Saturday is how easy it is. I can cut almost a half hour off my BART commute by going to a different station (sleeping that much longer). I can find a seat on the train and usually on the way home too! I love the city, but on Saturday mornings there is just less people and it is magical. Big city, relatively empty streets and amazing light. The downside is my bus comes every 30-45 minutes, instead of every 10-15 like weekdays. And it is often late.

Me Bracelets

I’m a big fan of structured shoulders or shoulder pads. This sweater has both! Ruching on the arms, plus a small pad in the shoulder. I was a little worried that it would look awkward on me when the trend was starting to gain momentum, but so far I like everything I’ve tried on. Trying to find clothes with broad shoulders used to be an issue when I was younger. But not caring what other people think when I love something helps too!

This cardigan from Torrid actually runs really big. The bottom half is ribbed, so there is a lot of stretch. I first bought it in a 4, returned it for a 3 and could have worn a 2. The odd thing is, the buttons pull at the front regardless. I plan to wear it as a sweater, instead of open and intended to sew up the front to fix that. It just didn’t happen before I wanted to wear it! Maybe next time? Unfortunately, it looks like the sweater will pill quickly (it already started) and is hand wash only. But I hope it holds up because I love it!

What are your feelings on structured shoulders or shoulder pads? Love them or leave them? Hate them? What kind of trends are you incorporating into your wardrobe this season?


23
Sep 10

Fat and fashionable?

Being fat and fashionable aren’t mutually exclusive. Yet there are very few companies taking advantage of this. I’m fat. I like fashion. I want fashionable, quality clothing. Is that too much to ask for? Is my money any different?

I typically wear a 26/28/30 US. I’m not versed at all in high fashion. I never saw the point of investing time in a community that did not include or value my participation, let alone my body. It has definitely been refreshing to see larger than usual bodies modeling clothing and on runways – but is it just a fad or is the fashion industry finally taking baby steps to a more body positive message?

There has been a lot of talk about designers doing plus size clothing. Any dissent I’ve read on social media or blogs against the “THIS IS THE BEST THING EVER!” has been blasted with this mantra of, “Be thankful they’re doing SOMETHING.” Or another favorite, “They have to start somewhere!” While I’m one to believe more in positive reinforcement, I find it very hard to be excited about stuff that has already been done.

Marc Jacobs has tried to release “plus sizes” before. Robert Duffy (the guy who tweets) said that they end up getting the stock back because nobody buys it. He posed the question – if they do it again, will people buy it this time around? So is it our fault, as the plus size community, that their attempts to cater to “plus sizes” failed? What is “plus size” to them? A 14/16? Were those clothes made for fat bodies? For boobs, hips and bellies? Were they sized up from the size two? Often you find that when designers decide to pick and choose which pieces will be plus sized – these aren’t necessarily the cute/trendy/fabulous pieces that they are known for.

It is difficult for everybody to find cute, fashionable clothing. Bodies are different. Period. With mass-market clothing, you don’t always get kind of fit you want. Size 2 or size 28.

The reality of plus size fashion is that as the size increases, your options drastically decline. Over a size 24/26, it can be a fashion wasteland. Every year, things seem to get a little better or easier but it can still be tough. There are a handful of companies offering sizing up to a US 28/30, and UK stores like Evans stop at 30/32 UK. Problem is, some of these companies trick you. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen something cute at Avenue, in store or online, and oh, wait! It stops at a 26, even though they carry up to a 30/32. I was actually very pleased to notice that Torrid has started carrying 5s or a 30/32. And the amount increases every season. Unfortunately, a lot of their fitted dresses still stop a 26. But it is nice to see some of the trend items in size 5. What about Lane Bryant and their bra sizes. Half of the styles stop a 44 band size. Others at a 46. What?! I was recently shopping for new bras and was told by an associate that I should settle for the bra I was trying on – it was “good enough” because hey, it went around me and held my boobs. Good enough, right? Despite the fact that there were some very noticeable issues that screamed, “this doesn’t fit!” Don’t even get me started on trying to find the 30/32s they supposedly offer.

With stores outside of the US, from the UK to Australia – sizing is different. UK sizing is supposed to be 2 sizes smaller than US. So Evans line goes up to a 30/32, which is a 26/28. New Look at a 26 UK, Next at a 26 UK. Yours Clothing, City Chic, etc. ASOS with their Curve line has become extremely popular with some amazing on trend, structured pieces which have been relatively non-existent in the plus size shopping world, but they also stop at a UK 26 or a US 22.

Under a size 20, you can get away with finding certain straight sized pieces. Or even a lot of retailers have started carrying straight sizes up to 20/XXL. Hell, even I can fit into Old Navy XXL’s occasionally!

Guess I’m naive but I feel like carrying up to a 26/28-30/32 should already be standard for most plus size ranges but it definitely isn’t. I feel like it is a little backward to clap some designers on the back for deciding to offer “plus sizes”, when in truth it is more average sized.

My question is what about people who wear ABOVE the extended sizes offered by chains. I’ve been there, done that. Before a medical condition was discovered in 2008, I wore a 38/40w. The only place I could find clothing was from the Redcats catalogs. Just in the last 4-5 years, the selection has improved a lot but even the catalogs claim they have sizes 12-44w. The “extended” sizing is often in very limited styles. Basic tops, jeans, pants, knits, oh and don’t forget the polyester muumuus! There are always exceptions to the rule, and I’ve seen more “trend” items be offered in larger sizes but it can still be extremely difficult. In the past 10 years, I’ve been sizes 18/20 to a 38/40w and ended up in the middle.

I encourage people to stop saying that something is “good enough”, when it really isn’t. There are so many plus size companies – either large chains or small businesses that offer larger sizing already. Even better to go to Etsy sellers who are willing to make clothing to YOUR size. Which can seem expensive but in the end – a well-made piece of clothing, that is tailored to YOUR body is going to fit and probably last a lot longer than an off-the-rack polyester monstrosity.

Urge these companies to do more to earn your patronage! Provide feedback, ask questions!


22
Sep 10

Fats at a cafe in the Bay!

Guess what? If you’re fat (or if even you aren’t!) and in the San Francisco Bay Area… you might want to check this place out.

I recently had the pleasure of meeting Sarah from I’m Not Blue At All at her cafe, Carrot’s Coffee & Tea in San Bruno. It is a bit of a trek for me from the East Bay – but well worth the trip! Excellent coffee, great food but the atmosphere is really fantastic.

Make a wish!

The wishing wall!

Sarah is an amazing woman! She introduced Annissa and I to a couple of her regulars, we talked about fashion, fat/size acceptance, etc. and got to know each other better. And you know what? It was a really wonderful way to spend an afternoon.

Carrot's Coffee & Tea

Me, Sarah and Annissa

And the best part? She is hosting a meet-up for fats in her cafe… the second Saturday of each month! Get more information about that over here.

The first meet is October 9th. Are you going? I’ll be there late in the afternoon but maybe I’ll see you there!


22
Sep 10

OOTD: The next step

Over the last several months I’ve been making the transformation from low-maintenance girl to FANCY LADY. It wasn’t exactly calculated or anything, but my tastes have changed. Maybe it is the evolution of my vanity? Who knows. As my wardrobe filled out, my low-maintenance routine didn’t clash well with the “polished” look of some of my outfits. It felt out of place. For a lot of things (school), it was fine but I needed a more updated, sophisticated look for job hunting, networking, etc.

Much like my hair situation, which I have somewhat fixed… I needed to update my makeup routine. As a teenager, I wore a moderate amount of makeup. Inspired by mother’s bathroom drawer – a plethora of makeup from the 80s, I started my own collection. The drawer contained all kinds of of magical, metallic, shiny WONDERFUL things. Shortly after, I had a collection of brightly colored eyeshadow, weird lipstick, etc. to adorn my face. But by high school I was done. I stuck with Clinique powder and cheap mascara until a couple months ago.

Ooh la la!

I loved this hat from For Love 21 so much that I had to buy it.

One problem with makeup has always been that I don’t know what the hell I’m doing. I have three younger brothers. My mother doesn’t wear much makeup. I had friends and cousins who were more versed in the ways of putting gunk on your face but I also wasn’t really that interested. I could clean up okay. I got by. I just never liked the feeling of heavy makeup on my face. Or how different I looked with it on!

A few months ago, I bought some products from the drug store as recommended by a friend. Natural stuff – mineral powder, foundation, etc. which worked okay. It still took a long time to put on, so I only wore it for “special occasions”. It would also melt off my face when it got hot. Twice as fast if I got a little sweaty. Which happens as a fat girl running around San Francisco, believe me!

So I figured, there has to be something else. Problem with the drugstore is that those endless shelves of product can’t help me. I’m clueless! So after recommendations from friends, family and reading reviews online… I decided to go to MAC. This solved my problems in a few ways. I didn’t have to know anything, someone could HELP me.

I actually walked into MAC a few weeks ago with the intention to just buy red lipstick. My drugstore mineral makeup hadn’t quite ran out yet. But I was there… so why not see what it was about? The girl was actually super sweet helping me – I won’t pretend I know anything about makeup and told her as much. I knew what color red I wanted, but that was about it! She even suggested a red lip pencil and put it on for me. Yes, I am that lame. After she asked me questions about what I’d want from my foundation – coverage, staying power, mineral, etc. and found/applied what I needed. I also discovered the magic of brushes. Which make things SO much easier. Better coverage, evenly applied, takes less time… and the best part? I’m not orange. The previous mineral foundation I was using had a tendency to look like fake tan.

I’m actually really pleased with how light the MAC stuff is. I ended up getting a water-based foundation and a mineral power. I’m lucky to have pretty good skin, so for the most part it is to even out my skin tone. It feels pretty great on my face, doesn’t melt off and wears well.

Here was the outfit of the day, for the last minute “We’re bored!” mall trip:

OOTD: The next step

Skirt – Thrifted
Top – Elle via Kohl’s
Necklace – My grandmother’s
Bangles – Torrid
Shoes – Torrid (actually I was just trying them on)

The funny thing about carrying a camera around is how people react. The MAC staff didn’t mind at all. The Lane Bryant associate would have probably posed for a picture with us (she was really excited about it!). Nobody in For Love 21 cared. And we got the, “No photos allowed in the store!” treatment in Torrid.

I’m curious – have any of you tried taking pictures of yourself or friends while shopping? Maybe to see how they look? For fun? What kind of treatment did you receive? One of the above? Honestly, I don’t see why it is a problem unless customers are uneasy or if you are obviously photographing merchandise, not people. I can understand some have issues with their photo being taken… but in an empty store? How do you feel?

In matters of makeup – my next goal? To master black eyeliner. A daunting task! Any makeup tips or tricks to share?